Last month, France became the 14th country
worldwide to legalize gay marriage. The bill was passed into law by the French
president Francois Holland amid fierce debate and widespread demonstrations. Thereafter, Wedding Planners got busy planning
the first legal gay marriages for same-sex love-birds all across France. Another
victory for Gay Pride.
Traditionally, marriage has been a reserve of opposite
sexes. Christian marriages of recent have
become so mainstream; every girl wants a Christian wedding, with a white frock
and a man of God to sanctify the union.
The thing is, Christian weddings follow an ideology;
marriage between a man and a woman in the presence of God and bla bla bla. A
marriage between a man and a man or a woman and a woman violate that one
ingredient that makes for a traditional Christian wedding and therefore disqualifies
them as such.
In Africa, before the contamination of Europeans and their
alien religious beliefs, marriage was a simple affair; an affair between the
man’s family and the girl’s family. There
wasn’t as much fanfare as we see these days. You love the girl, she accepts
you, you get a middle-man to broker the deal and it’s done!
These days marriages and weddings are all about show. Where is
the heart? Why do I need the world to know my private affairs? Am I marrying
for them?
Why a gay marriage that aims to imitate Christian values yet
the very act of homosexuality is taboo in most churches? Why is it so important
to have a marriage that half the world will look at with scorn? You love her,
she loves you. If your insecurity is at
such an extent that you need to sign some documents to validate it, by all
means, go to a judge and get civil wedding.
Why is it that important to broadcast your own private
affairs?
In my opinion, the gay issue has been so badly handled that
it leaves a bad taste in my mouth. Homosexuality is being shoved down our
throats in bucket-loads. What’s the rush let me ask? It took only a couple of
hundred years for black people to be accepted as full human beings and not the
sub-human creatures Caucasians thought we were.
We didn’t come to your countries and force to be accepted; you took us
there! We knew who we were and were not
ashamed of it. We didn’t try to force our skin-color and customs down your
throats.
Why is homosexuality so vocal! It’s simply a sexual
orientation! Get over it.
Do you need to be backed by western governments and
multinational corporations? Do you need to promote your orientation so
aggressively like it’s Coca-Cola? Thing is, I don’t even like Coca-Cola; it’s
all in my face! You don’t allow us time to come to an honest decision as to whether
we like it or don’t.
I am positive homosexuality has been present in Africa for a
while. Africans tend to be rather reserved. I could say the same for the Arabs
and a good number of Asians. Whatever a person is in private has nothing to do
with his outward appearance. We don’t
need to broadcast things like that.
The average African doesn’t kiss in public. Family fights and
disagreements are left at the doorstep. Not
that people don’t know- we are rather a communal people.
Why then is homosexuality such a big issue? I frankly don’t
care if my best friend is gay. It’s a private thing. They don’t have to rub it
in my face and go to the streets to campaign for ‘gay rights.’ They don’t have
to support ‘gay causes’ whatever those are even. When I think of Homosexuality, I don’t see it
as normal behavior, but rather as an extremist movement. Like the Ku Klux Klan.
Or the Illuminati. It doesn’t settle well with me.
In high school I heard stories of ‘White People’ who were
doling out money to anyone who claimed they were gay and were being persecuted.
Imagine a situation where the average
African struggles to feed himself and he hears of such stories; Boom! Instant
Homosexual! I also heard of underage
kids indoctrinated into being homosexual with promises of money and sponsorship
to schools abroad. That, my friend, is not how to make me accept a sexual
orientation.
Can’t homosexuality simply be a thing between lovers;
something whispered by shy lovers to themselves. Heterosexuality is normally
that way this side of the world at least. A public display of affection of an
orientation that is trying to gain worldwide acceptance doesn’t make me feel okay.
Can’t it be a subtle movement that first proves to the world that it doesn’t
mean any harm? I feel threatened here!
Homosexuality is rather coming off as a hostile take-over. I wish it could be personified and given an
everyday voice. Maybe then would I start believing that my age-old customs and
traditions are not under threat.
Or is this just another front for the ‘White Man?’ After
Christianity came Colonization with all its evils. I am now wondering whether this too isn’t
another front of something far worse than what the Western World did to us
hundreds of years ago. I am wondering…
